The Art of Flirting

The Art of Flirting

The art of flirting

relates directly back to the person who initiates the act. It’s no secret that men and women see the world differently. And flirting isn’t any different. Women have different intentions and goals when they flirt then do men.

Most men relate flirting directly to sex. They believe that if a girl flirts long enough she is more likely to have sex with him. On the other hand women see flirting as harmless fun without an end to the game.

While there may be some sexual tension while flirting, women also believe that there can be flirting that has no romantic nature to it at all. There is an art to flirting for both men and women that makes the whole interchange fun and slightly risky.

So how do we untangle the perception of men and women so that flirting is successful from the perspective of both? How do we become the man or woman who walks into a crowd and walks away with a choice phone number and scheduled date? The key to both is learning how to flirt!

Flirting is actually an art that can be learned and practiced. You don’t have to be outrageously good-looking, have a model’s figure or a muscle man’s chest to be successful at dating. You only have to learn how to flirt successfully.

There may be some with a natural instinct to attract the opposite sex but if you delved into their background there is a likelihood that they learned their skill by watching someone else who was a great flirt.

One of the really important aspects of flirting is a positive, self-confident attitude. You may be shaking in your shoes but you can’t let the other person see it. Self-confident people do get nervous or scared so take comfort in the fact that most of the self-confident and poised people you meet have spent time learning the skill of hiding their nerves.

People are automatically attracted to those who are confident and believe themselves to be attractive. If you say something awkward just ignore it. If you don’t make a big deal about it then the other person probably won’t even notice.

Flirting is lighthearted and fun.

It is simple and a bit of a risk. So you must initiate a conversation! Try to find a common interest and use it. If you find a common interest the conversation will flow naturally. You can even start a conversation about your immediate surroundings.

Conversations that are short and curt doesn’t take the form of flirting. This means that the questions you ask require more than a yes or no response. Instead, ask questions that encourage them to talk and then really listen. One of the most attractive characteristics in a person is the ability to really listen to the other person.

Watch your body language. Although they are subtle cues most people pick up on them and almost all people do them subconsciously. If you learn to take note of what you are doing you can learn to use your body language to communicate.Women should cross their legs in the direction of the person. Men shouldn’t cross their legs at all. Casually, and lightly, touch the other persons arm or leg during the conversation. Use your eyes to communicate your interest. Meet their eyes and smile. Within 2 seconds drop your eyes down, while still smiling and then look up again and meet their eyes.

Use the person’s name in conversation. There is a simple three time rule. If you repeat their name three times in conversation you’ll be more likely to remember their name and face, and they will be more likely to remember you.

Always leave them wanting more. When you are giving someone your undivided attention you are also flattering them. There is nothing more appealing than to have someone paying close attention to everything you say and do. A successful flirt, in the situation of meeting someone in a group setting, will flirt until the other person begins to respond. And then they leave.

This is a bit harder to do on a date or online without giving the impression that you are no longer interested but the concept behind the actions are to leave the other person wanting more of you.

Flirting is an art

that is learned and can be honed to the point of being an expert. Expert flirts know when to turn it on and turn it off. They are practiced in the art of paying attention and flattery. But the best part about all of this is that it is a learned art. You can learn it, practice it and become an expert with just a bit of confidence and taking a little risk. The rewards are well worth it!

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